Thursday, 26 February 2015

To snoop or not to snoop



Sometime ago I dated this guy who I am sorry to say wasn’t quite faithful (putting it mildly). We had one of our numerous break up to make up sessions and in the slow process of making up, he went on holiday. We were ought to have gone together but I didn’t have leave days so he supposedly went “alone”, during the trip he called me as usual and gave me updates.


Fast forward to when Bros got back, I went to see him as per better girlfriend, he showed me pictures from the trip and I noticed something was missing, the pictures weren’t quite complete. I swooped into detective mode; Private Investigator, CIA, FBI all rolled into one.


 He had to go out that night, asked if I would come along and I ever so politely refused; I had to “rest”. Immediately he left I combed through the house and found an extra airline ticket (with a funny name I could swear her parents didn’t name her that) jewelry bought as a gift, some other stuff but no pictures. Finally found a USB stick, but no PC to assess the stick, you won’t believe this but I actually went to my house that night say at about 9pm to pick up my laptop and back again to Bro’s place.  I wasn’t mobile so I had to walk all the way to the junction to get a cab and the house was on a hill so imagine the long tedious walk and the crazy moves just to prove a point, well hooray my efforts paid off, found the missing pictures (the girl was fine sha) so puzzle now complete.  I actually confronted him stylishly and he owned up, confessed and you know the usual I am sorry  bla bla that comes after (the type of sorry that one says when he gets caught; more like I sorry you found out, not I am sorry I did it).

I feel every one of us have been tempted to snoop (no lies, God is watching) once in a while. You know you get tempted to go through your partner’s phone, messages, social media, documents, anything that could give you useful info to use against him/her  in the court of love or not.

Is it right to snoop? In some cases I can justify snooping cos we can’t all be living in a bubble relying on the info he gives you especially if you don’t have background knowledge of him or you live in different cities; you never can tell he might be living a totally different life elsewhere, probably married with a wife and kids someplace else, lol don’t mind my paranoia.

But thank God I have gotten over my Private Investigator phase. Snooping is actually a relationship killer and it's quite addictive; you snoop once, you would most likely snoop again. No need getting worked up over none existent stuff, get to know your partner for he is and build on trust as it’s what counts eventually. 


So what’s your take, to snoop or not to snoop and please let’s hear your stories.

Peace, Love and Cupcakes...


Koko


Photo credit: Vogue.com

17 comments:

  1. Snooping to me is pointless...like they say wot u don't know won't kill u...so I usually pass...I believe if something is meant to come to lime light it definitely will...so why stress n kill ur joy for the time being.. you only live once.lol

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  2. Snooping is stressful job plus you are prone to hbp. Getting to know your partner should be key and of course keep both eyes open!
    Jane E I see you

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  3. Lol Am I the only one that sees the importance of snooping. .I should have free access to ur phone just lk u av access to mine . Its ok 2 snoop just don't get caught .

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    1. lol, like the don't get caught part of it

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  4. I believe in listening to my instinct.
    we always know if our partner is faithful weather we snoop or not.

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  5. I believe in listening to my instinct.
    we always know if our partner is faithful weather we snoop or not.

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    1. Yea we do. You would just notice something

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  6. I stooped a lot before I married. I was dating dis cheat of a guy. thank God I no marry am. with my husband I snoop but he has nothing to hide

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  7. Snooping is terrible because once you do it, it's very hard to stop. And all it takes to start is one less-than-faithful partner, unfortunately.

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    1. Yay! Berry on my blog. Yea snooping is kind of addictive, you easily get hooked but once you satisfy your curiosity and see there is nothing to find you just stop.

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    2. You stop only when you find nothing...if you keep finding something....the game continues

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  8. Why snoop even when he already made up his mind to be with you and not the other chic ?

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    1. Human beings are inquisitive in nature.
      It is in their DNA.(women are born detective)

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