Sometime ago I dated this guy who I am sorry to say wasn’t quite faithful (putting it mildly). We had one of our numerous break up to make up sessions and in the slow process of making up, he went on holiday. We were ought to have gone together but I didn’t have leave days so he supposedly went “alone”, during the trip he called me as usual and gave me updates.
Fast forward to when Bros got back, I went to see him as per better girlfriend, he showed me pictures from the trip and I noticed something was missing, the pictures weren’t quite complete. I swooped into detective mode; Private Investigator, CIA, FBI all rolled into one.
He had to go out that night, asked if I would come along and I ever so politely refused; I had to “rest”. Immediately he left I combed through the house and found an extra airline ticket (with a funny name I could swear her parents didn’t name her that) jewelry bought as a gift, some other stuff but no pictures. Finally found a USB stick, but no PC to assess the stick, you won’t believe this but I actually went to my house that night say at about 9pm to pick up my laptop and back again to Bro’s place. I wasn’t mobile so I had to walk all the way to the junction to get a cab and the house was on a hill so imagine the long tedious walk and the crazy moves just to prove a point, well hooray my efforts paid off, found the missing pictures (the girl was fine sha) so puzzle now complete. I actually confronted him stylishly and he owned up, confessed and you know the usual I am sorry bla bla that comes after (the type of sorry that one says when he gets caught; more like I sorry you found out, not I am sorry I did it).
I feel every one of us have been tempted to snoop (no lies, God is watching) once in a while. You know you get tempted to go through your partner’s phone, messages, social media, documents, anything that could give you useful info to use against him/her in the court of love or not.
Is it right to snoop? In some cases I can justify snooping cos we can’t all be living in a bubble relying on the info he gives you especially if you don’t have background knowledge of him or you live in different cities; you never can tell he might be living a totally different life elsewhere, probably married with a wife and kids someplace else, lol don’t mind my paranoia.
But thank God I have gotten over my Private Investigator phase. Snooping is actually a relationship killer and it's quite addictive; you snoop once, you would most likely snoop again. No need getting worked up over none existent stuff, get to know your partner for he is and build on trust as it’s what counts eventually.
So what’s your take, to snoop or not to snoop and please let’s hear your stories.
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