There are some men (emphasis on some) who can cheat for Africa. People say African men are polygamous in nature; Scratch that all men and it seems as though it is socially acceptable for men to cheat, society doesn’t ask questions. Infact you would be seeing public officers openly displaying their infidelity like kilode. Wives are used to their men pursuing small girls even underage girls like a headless chicken. I have even heard stories of men spending their wedding eve with their side chick and leaving her bed straight to Church to get married to the main babe, maka why?
These chronic cheats do it without shame, they are not even hiding it sef, if dem no fear and respect their wives at least make them fear God.
My problem lies with the advice ladies give themselves when someone complains about a cheating spouse; “keep praying for him” “don’t confront him oh” cook well for him and serve him very well” “dress up good for him” “give him hotter sex in bed” “if you leave him there are other women waiting to come in” . I am wondering is the reward for cheating a better behaved and loving wife? Better sex and good food? In her desperate attempt to win her man back from the claws of the husband snatchers aka Assistant Madam aka Ashawo kobo kobo.
What’s the man supposed to do in all this, just sit and watch the wife “fight” for her marriage. The responsibility of fixing this situation lies with the woman, she fights with all she’s got to preserve the marriage. If a woman cheats, hmmm Abomination!!! They would call family meeting, they might even beat her up, infact she is leaving the house that day sef.
Please don’t get it twisted, it’s our responsibility as wives to play our part in keeping our home, dress well, and give him mind blowing sex, strive each day to be his babe he met and fell in love with, don’t deny him sex unjustly and don’t nag nag nag cos seriously there are wolves out there waiting to pounce so beware.
The thing though is; a cheat would always cheat, even if you have a body that’s a cross between Kim Kardashian, Beyoncé and Nicki Minaj and even if you like give him snake in the monkey shadow style during sex, Bros would still go out of his way to cheat. You see his wife is a lovely unique fruit but he just prefers fruit salad.
I don’t know if these men calculate the amount of time, money and resources spent on sneaking and going out of their way to cheat on their partners and the fact that they make their homes open and vulnerable to attacks and diseases.
Why are we women satisfied with; “after all I am the one he has at home” I would keep praying” “maybe I did something wrong” or “I can’t stop living this life this man has afforded me, the shopping sprees, endless gifts, first class travel” and begin to hold men accountable and responsible for their actions. Whatever happened to all the promises he made and the vows he took on the altar.
As usual I want to read your views, me I have said mine oh, over to you my lovely readers.
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