Sometimes I wonder if everyone is destined to get married, find your missing rib, soul-mate or the supposed love of your life. What happens to the people who never find that soul mate? does it mean they would spend their whole life in complete misery?
I have had conversations with people or say with a classmate I have not seen in probably over 5 or 10 years and you know how gists go before you know it you are talking about your classmates not gossiping oh, I don't gossip *inserts straight face emoji*. Anyway as we were
gossiping talking the person asks have you heard from Aisha? you say oh Aisha, she is now a big girl works at a big multinational now, they just made her branch head last year and she jets around the world for meetings, training's and stuff. the next question you hear is... Is she married? You say No. hmmm cased dismissed or you hear all these things she is doing does not mean anything na, she should go get married or its cos of too much money that's why she scares men away.
Brings me to ask, does marriage define a lady? You are nothing in the Nigerian context if there is not a "Mrs" attached to your name. Is a career less woman who is married with kids of better social standing than a single lady who is top of the career ladder?
Even to look for house to rent some landlord's would say "I don't rent out my house to single ladies" I feel the pressure on the single women by society to get married is stifling. Remember when your parents feel you are of marriageable age and during morning devotion they start praying for a suitable husband for you; one eye pops open during the prayer and you are like, hey Mom I didn't even know I was searching for a husband. Really though, this pressure forces women to become desperate and trust men they can smell desperation from a mile away. Then they would either come to play ten ten with your heart or flee as though their heels were on fire.
My advice to single women is simple; enjoy been single, have fun, achieve all you can andork on been the Proverbs 31 woman so that you become a valuable asset to your Prince Charming when he arrives .
Peace, love and cupcakes..
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