Tough Loving

How many of you remember this song; “Love me jeje, love me tender, you are my sugar, my honey my tender lover, if you say you love me I go stay forever” *insert beats, and start dancing butterfly* oops sorry I got carried away for a moment.  See how love is supposed to be jeje and tender and oh so sweet. It’s a good thing to be in love, to love and be loved.

Sadly a lot of people have a misconstrued idea of what love is and how one should be loved. I have heard lots and lots of stories about men beating, bashing, smashing, boxing and pounding their wives and girlfriends. These men una no get shame? Go and find your mate/size and try to pound him. I always say any man who lays his hands on a woman is a coward, a spineless, gutless, ball-less man who needs to re-validate his manhood by hitting on a weaker person.

The Countless joys of Motherhood

This post was supposed to be up on Mother’s day but unfortunately, baby+ terrible internet service won’t let this blog be. The month of March is basically dedicated to women and mothers; guys sorry but we rule the world. This was my first Mother’s day celebration as a mother, not easy at all *fans self, finds out fan isn’t enough, puts on AC, chai they have taken light as usual*.

I remember after having my baby, I asked my Mom; “how did you do it?” Having all 5 of us, coping with our antics and been there personally for each of us. To my Mom,  my No. 1 mentor, my pillar I love you more with each passing day.

Pet Peeves

This post is inspired by Ebony Life TV’s The Spot, a talk show hosted by Ebuka (hot guy), Zainab (my female crush if I would admit having one) and Lamide. There is this segment where they state their pet peeves, these is like something small that is annoying to you. So I decided since I can’t get on the show yet (maybe someday I will) to state my pet peeves I can as well state them here and hear about yours too. I probably have a habit that is a pet peeve to someone out there. I know one of my sister’s pet peeves is punctuations, she always calls me or chats me up and say, go and edit your posts you got the punctuations a bit off, so now I make a conscious effort to go through my post before publishing.

So let’s go

1.       Mixing up English words that are pronounced same way but with different spellings and meanings for example; cease/seize, there/their, grateful/greatful (this is actually not a word but people still use it), where/were, thread/tread. Some people would just mix everything up; “Lord, I am so greatful”, I want to cease this opportunity”. Ahn, Kilode! If in doubt always use a dictionary, download the app it’s free.

Stereotyping; the tribal ish

I sometimes get into this situation where I introduce myself and the person asks where I am from. Although my name should give you an idea as I bear my native name but let’s sha forgive them.  I reply Akwa Ibom State and sometimes, there are like 3 reactions.

Scenario 1.

But you don’t look like them, you don’t even speak like them. Me: *blank stare* what do they look like? Or how do they speak? Guy: *stammering* you know na, with hand gesticulations they say; “most of them are short na” Me: have you met all of them or most of them?

The wife and the cheating husband

There are some men (emphasis on some) who can cheat for Africa. People say African men are polygamous in nature; Scratch that all men and it seems as though it is socially acceptable for men to cheat, society doesn’t ask questions. Infact you would be seeing public officers openly displaying their infidelity like kilode. Wives are used to their men pursuing small girls even underage girls like a headless chicken. I have even heard stories of men spending their wedding eve with their side chick and leaving her bed straight to Church to get married to the main babe, maka why?

These chronic cheats do it without shame, they are not even hiding it sef, if dem no fear and respect their wives at least make them fear God.

To snoop or not to snoop

Sometime ago I dated this guy who I am sorry to say wasn’t quite faithful (putting it mildly). We had one of our numerous break up to make up sessions and in the slow process of making up, he went on holiday. We were ought to have gone together but I didn’t have leave days so he supposedly went “alone”, during the trip he called me as usual and gave me updates.

Fast forward to when Bros got back, I went to see him as per better girlfriend, he showed me pictures from the trip and I noticed something was missing, the pictures weren’t quite complete. I swooped into detective mode; Private Investigator, CIA, FBI all rolled into one.

Oh No.. the Big Three-Oh

I know a lot of people who just turned 30 either last year or this year and you know after the initial excitement, you realize; shoot I am getting young. It's no more the fast paced, fun filled  20s, S**t just got serious.

So being the nice person that I am *flutters eyelids* I have put together a list of things that I try to apply myself, its not easy but its a step at a time.

1. Have an intimate relationship with God.

 Not just the sunday sunday I dey go church thing. get active in church, have that connection with God take out time each day to commune with your Creator , be more conversant with the scriptures. I know everyone inserts this line in their list of new year resolutions but this time actually do it.

2. Be charitable:

Give Give Give. They say the hands of the giver is always on top. Donate to a worthy cause. Adopt a charity it could be a motherless home, cancer foundation, sickle cell foundation girl child initiative, education, there are a lot of them. Even if you don't have money you could donate your time, volunteer at some organisations. you could decide to teach free in a local school or even something as little as helping these kids with their homework.